Tuesday, April 21
Moving On by Glancing Behind
So let's try to get to the very source of this. Why the sudden emptiness after the relationship? Why the feeling of being incomplete? Why don't I have the will to go on? You know what I think of it? We can trace this back to what were you before… before the relationship and before the break-up.
What were you before the relationship? Were you someone who doesn't know what to do with your life or someone full of dreams, someone on his/her way on achieving a life long goal? If you were someone who had no direction in life then, voila! There’s your problem. You never knew who you were since the start; so having a relationship would have given you more harm than good. More often than not, if you’re this type of person, you used the relationship to have an identity, to have a goal in life. You never had any when you were on your own so you grabbed your partner to help you out. But it turns out that the identity you've made and the goals you've sought are only as good as the existence of the relationship. Kaput. So there goes your life, down the drain with your ex. On the other hand, if you're the person who came to be just before you were "on" then the problem could have been what became of you during the relationship. In this case, you could have been so emotionally attached to your partner that it altered your priorities totally. Therefore resulting to the same fate as that of the first situation.
Now what do you do? Aha! So here comes the juicy part. If you're the person who had no idea whatsoever about what your life is all about, you better realize that now is the time for you to explore yourself. Find out what you want and what would make you happy. Do lots of experiments and "crazy" activities. You'll never know till you try. And for the other type of person, think back of what you were. Though you may never be totally the same person, well at least you still know who you were and who you want yourself to be. Then go! Reach for those darling dreams you've long forgotten. Though these solutions may never be instant hits, but think about it. For one, you'll be preoccupied. And another, you will greatly improve your self-worth.
And so, for those in a relationship right now, i advise you to keep in touch with yourself while you’re in the relationship. Remember that you should have your own world as well as your partner has his/her own world too. And as these two worlds converges. Magic! You'll have one big beautiful world you call your relationship.
What were you before the relationship? Were you someone who doesn't know what to do with your life or someone full of dreams, someone on his/her way on achieving a life long goal? If you were someone who had no direction in life then, voila! There’s your problem. You never knew who you were since the start; so having a relationship would have given you more harm than good. More often than not, if you’re this type of person, you used the relationship to have an identity, to have a goal in life. You never had any when you were on your own so you grabbed your partner to help you out. But it turns out that the identity you've made and the goals you've sought are only as good as the existence of the relationship. Kaput. So there goes your life, down the drain with your ex. On the other hand, if you're the person who came to be just before you were "on" then the problem could have been what became of you during the relationship. In this case, you could have been so emotionally attached to your partner that it altered your priorities totally. Therefore resulting to the same fate as that of the first situation.
Now what do you do? Aha! So here comes the juicy part. If you're the person who had no idea whatsoever about what your life is all about, you better realize that now is the time for you to explore yourself. Find out what you want and what would make you happy. Do lots of experiments and "crazy" activities. You'll never know till you try. And for the other type of person, think back of what you were. Though you may never be totally the same person, well at least you still know who you were and who you want yourself to be. Then go! Reach for those darling dreams you've long forgotten. Though these solutions may never be instant hits, but think about it. For one, you'll be preoccupied. And another, you will greatly improve your self-worth.
And so, for those in a relationship right now, i advise you to keep in touch with yourself while you’re in the relationship. Remember that you should have your own world as well as your partner has his/her own world too. And as these two worlds converges. Magic! You'll have one big beautiful world you call your relationship.
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